As I mentioned before, Satan went on the attack on my body trying to hinder this WORD of the LORD from getting out. I was out of it for at least a day and a half. But as you can see. He was not able to prevent GOD from speaking through HIS servant. So, let's talk about this spirit of resentment that I mentioned the other day.
that old spirit trying to gain grounds
1. He does not want us to get our testimony out there because it leaves him at a disadvantage. He knows if we effectively use our personal testimony in our ministry to help with the Kingdom's work. That it would destroy his every effort to keep us off course and prevent us from gaining everlasting life with the FATHER in heaven. Satan wants nothing more than to destroy our world, our lives, and the lives of our families. He wants nothing but discord and death for all of us. So, if we are not willing to use our testimony to help ourselves to heal and others. Then Satan is very much grateful and will use our own testimony to hold against us and to keep us trapped in his web of strongholds.
2. He does not want us to get our testimony out there because it has power. Our personal testimony has the power as well as the authority to destroy all the efforts of Satan. And Satan knows this. This is why he works so hard at every opportunity he gets to throw in our faces our old behaviors, old habits, that old spirits of ours to see if he can get us to give into the influence this old nature once had over us.
And that’s what Satan was trying to do in my life this past week through an individual who has caused me a great of pain over the years. I spent years hating this person. Going out of my way to avoid being in the presence of this person for years. I resented everything there was about this person and the things this person had done to me.
But after writing my first book. GOD opened my eyes as well as my heart to things I just didn’t know or understand. GOD spoke to my heart and took me to the edge of my own cliff. And gave me some choices that I did not even know I had. GOD spent hours with me explaining and showing me things that only this person and a select few would have known. GOD allowed me to travel in this person’s past as well as mine to understand things about our cultural differences that created the nature of the person that this person had become. GOD showed me this individual’s heart and their own brokenness, which made me feel ashamed to feel the way I was. But in it all, GOD was dealing with me and my own brokenness, resentment, hatred, and developing unforgiving spirit. And I talked about this journey in my first book. That I want to share with you guys today. Especially with those who are not familiar with my story.
Spirit of resentment that dominated me
But this thing right here. That spirit of resentment had gotten so bad in me that it had taken over my soul, leaving no room for my spirit to grow and prosper. I was content with living in my own mess. Initially, it wasn’t a mess that I created for myself. It was brought on by the messy lives that others around me lived and I was directly affected and influenced by it. But at some point, I conformed and adopted the ways and the spirit of others which led me to a very dark place for many years. And once I was in it, I really did not know how to free myself or get out of it. Hence, this eventually led to my book Surrendering. Just to give you an idea of how bad this spirit of resentment was in me, it took me three chapters in my book to explain it all. So, I need to pull an excerpt from all three chapters. At any rate, in this excerpt that is taken from my book – well, let my book speak for itself, and then I will close out with a few words of my own.
Excerpt from my book
CHAPTER 7 – NO MERCY: RELIGIOUS LEADERS ARE FAILING TO EXTEND GOD’S GRACE AND MERCY
“… When your life is filled with so much pain and hurt, it is sometimes hard to look beyond your current circumstance. For some of us, we begin to believe this is all life is meant to be, plagued with anger, discord, malice, resentment, and a lack of love. If we let it, we allow our hearts to become darkened and filled with self-hatred, bitterness, and anger. This will not only keep us from forgiving others for their offenses against us, but we also fail to forgive ourselves, and we fail to heal from our past. As a result, we learn to live life from one emotional struggle to the next. Oftentimes, we connect with people who are just as broken as we are, which prolongs our healing process….”
CHAPTER 8 – LETTING GO OF ALL ANGER, RESENTMENT, AND BITTERNESS
“… When you refuse to let go of your anger, bitterness, or resentment, whether you are conscious of it or not, you are making a choice not to reflect the godly image, in which you were created. Instead, you choose to serve and give power, your power of free will, to the god of this world (2 Corinthians 4:4). Remember, no darkness dwells in God (1 John 1:5). Therefore, we must not allow anything dark to dwell within us. This is why it is so critical that we learn to forgive and not hold onto resentment, bitterness, or anger. Daniel 9:9 says, “God is merciful and forgiving.” Mark 11:25 encourages us not to “hold anything against anyone.” Instead, “forgive them.” Why? “So that your Father in heaven may forgive your sins.” He even gives explicit instructions concerning resentment, bitterness, and anger. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV), it says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” If that is not enough to convince you, read Ephesians 4:31 which says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”
For years, I struggled with this. In my heart, I had convinced myself that these Scriptures could not apply to me regarding those who purposely violated me. There was no way God could expect me to forgive or let go of any anger I rightfully held against my abusers. However, when you read Mark 11:25 and compare that verse with almost all Bible translations, the word any or anyone appears. So, let’s look at the verse again, it says, “if you hold anything against anyone….” Therefore, I had to decide to forgive and let go of all resentment, bitterness, and anger, I had been harboring against certain individuals. Does forgiving and letting go of the hurt mean that my abusers are free from consequences for their wrongdoing? Certainly not! They have to answer to God for their sins. However, by letting go of the negative energy that I had been entertaining, God could freely forgive me and heal me from my emotionally damaged state (Ephesians 4:24). By doing this, God could now exercise rightful judgment on my behalf (Romans 12:17-21; Hebrews 10:30).
You, too, must learn to let go of all anger, resentment, and bitterness. First and foremost, pray to God for His help on the matter. Once you have mastered this, then learn to pray for your abuser(s) —those who have violated you emotionally or physically. If you are holding onto resentment toward your mother or father, because they failed to protect you from your abuser or they were the abuser, pray and pray and pray about it, until you receive some level of peace on the issue. Pray to God that He will deal with your parent or parents’ hearts and minds and that they would acknowledge their mistakes and failures. Pray they may one day repent and seek God for forgiveness. Pray that one day, they will ask for your forgiveness, as well.
The best thing I ever did for myself, during my healing process, was to let go of all my anger, resentment, and bitterness and give it to God (Proverbs 3:5-6) ….”
CHAPTER 9 – FORGIVING OTHERS AND MYSELF
“… I will admit the process is not always easy in the beginning. For some, this process may happen very quickly. While for others, it may take a while. I have to be honest; I did not know how deeply embedded the spirit of unforgiveness was within me until I wrote this book. This book is not just for you, it is for me also.
Take my life for instance. Although I had finally jumped a major hurdle in my life, my scars were still deeply rooted. I did not realize how my past experiences had impacted me even today. It influenced how I responded and reacted to every mistreatment or injustice; I encountered in life. Unbeknown to me, I had developed an unforgiving spirit, stemming from the years of abuse I had endured. When anyone caused me harm, I retreated. I placed as much distance as possible between myself and that person. I isolated myself. I reinforced my already impenetrable and invisible walls, as a way to shield myself from additional assaults from that person. In addition to shielding myself from that person, I naturally shut everyone else out. That one person’s unloving reaction triggered a chain reaction, deeply rooted inside of me. It brought out many of my vulnerabilities and insecurities. Immediately, I, unconsciously, labeled that person as untrustworthy, and I sentenced them to a lifetime of banishment. My heart had hardened and became inflexible, unwilling to forgive them for the harm, discomfort, and pain they caused me.
The unforgiving cancer had spread throughout my entire spirit, yet I could not see it. I could not see how my past pain was still affecting my life, more than three decades later. But the incident with the pastor’s wife opened my eyes. Yes, that sister was out of place. I am sure the way she came into the meeting, with her subtle accusations and judgmental spirit, was not of God. For a moment, she behaved not in the spirit, but in her flesh. But even though I was unaware of it at the time, it was at that moment that she likely saved my life. If I had persisted along the path of unforgiveness, it would have, eventually, made me a resentful person. That resentment would have turned into bitterness. Ultimately, that bitterness would have turned me away from God’s people and probably away from God, once and for all….”
ItS goal is to poISon your soul
This spirit of resentment acts no different than an IV bag except. It attaches itself to our bodies and acts in reverse by draining us of every vital mineral, vitamin, electrolyte, and nutrient our bodies need to function and live. In fact, once it's done sucking every critical structure of our circulatory system, it turns its attention to our vital organs to destroy them. And then finally, it begins to drain our blood dry. And what it leaves behind is just a skeleton of the person we use to be or what we could have become. It leaves you feeling hopeless and swollen you up and leaving you to feel trapped in an isolated world where no one knows who you are or that you even exist. There is literally no way out once you end up in this dead world of resentment. There is no light, no smell, no visual aids, no communication. Just emptiness. Complete darkness.
But even in that place, GOD can still come and see about you. HE can still reach you. HE still can mode you in HIS hands and touch your heart and revive your spirit. IF YOU LET HIM. HE can turn it around and pull you out of the mire of your stank. HE can make you whole again and free you from yourself, your enemies, those who harmed you, those who threw you in your pit, and from the strong hands of that devil. But the key is – YOU GOT TO LET HIM TOUCH THAT SORE SPOT OF YOURS. You got to allow HIM to deal with – uncover and reveal to you your pain. Then you must allow HIM to take you through HIS process of healing. Otherwise, that spirit of resentment will beat you up so bad that HELL will be your only coming victory.
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